First dates can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. You are looking for someone special but you don’t want to seem too desperate. It’s hard to maintain this balance and we can often drive away someone really great dates with the silly things we do.
Here are some tips from our matchmakers that will guarantee a second date:
What Do You Notice First?
When you lay your eyes on someone, what’s the first thing you notice? Is it their eyes, smile, attire or hair? Studies show that men and women notice different things in a person. Women tend to notice a guy’s smile while men tend to notice their eyes. There’s this whole misconception that men notice physique before anything else.
Eyes tell us a lot about a person. When on a first date, a lot of eye contact is an indication that the two of you are attracted to each other. Whereas a smile can warm you up to one another. it’s a very welcoming expression. It shows you are happy that you haven’t been stood up and you appreciate the person you are out with.
Don’t worry too much about what you are going to wear. Just aim to look presentable and well groomed. First dates aren’t occasions to experiment with your look! Guys need to greet their partners with a smile while the ladies need to maintain eye contact.
What Topic Of Conversations To Bring Up?
It’s best to keep the deeper conversations about life for other dates. As a general rule, it is never a good idea to bring up politics and religion when chatting with your date. Keep the conversations free flowing, any awkward silence can really break your momentum. Having said that, what should you talk about? Hobbies and interests are the most common places to begin with.
You are essentially trying to find out how similar or different you are to your date. Understanding their likes and dislikes can help you understand if they can potentially be the one for you. Many couples started out their first dates by talking about movies, music, books, and comics. These light-hearted topics can keep your night fun.
What Are First Date Pet Peeves?
Dates can go horribly wrong. One of the most common reasons why dates don’t go well is because one stays on their phones throughout the date. You’ll have plenty of time for Instagram when your date leaves you in the restaurant!
Second in line for pet peeves is being self-absorbed. Dates hate it when their partner is only talking about themselves during the entire evening. It’s a very selfish move to make; you need to spend your time getting to know each other. Never let the conversation be one-sided. If you feel like your date isn’t giving you much, ask them about their life, their family, pets etc. once again you need to have a smooth conversation and not turn it into an interrogation. As a general tip, never bring up previous relationships until asked.