Romance novels and romantic comedies set the bar pretty high when it comes to romantic expectations from a relationship.
But reel life is very different than real life. About 40 to 50% of the marriages in the U.S. end in divorce because one or both in the relationship continue to let each other down. But why is that?
Perhaps it’s because when it comes to a relationship, we all have a few expectations that are just plain unrealistic and have the potential of ruining a relationship.
Here are 5 expectations that you definitely should not expect.
1. My Way or the High Way
A lot of people enter relationships thinking that whatever they say or do will be accepted willingly by their partners. But you can’t always have your way and expect your partner to bow down to your wishes.
You’re in a relationship with another person, not with yourself. So it is only natural that you both compromise. Learn to take an opinion different than yours.
In serious relationships, you expect your partner to understand you and be able to gauge how you’re feeling, but you can’t expect them to read your mind and figure out what’s going on in your head.
Wanting your partner to automatically be able to understand all your needs and expectations, without any communication, is really unrealistic. Try to keep the channel of communication open.
3. Spending Time with Them 24/7
When you’re in love, it is natural to want to spend as much time as possible with your partner. You just can’t get enough of each other! But expecting them to spend every single waking moment together is not right.
You both need to occasionally spend some time with your friends and family as well. Also, you both might have hobbies that you would like to do in your free time.
4. No Fighting
Majority of the couples deem fighting to be bad for a relationship and so they set an unrealistic expectation that a perfect partnership should have no conflicts. But again, this expectation can ruin your relationship.
Conflicts aren’t the worst thing that can happen to your relationship; instead, they give you an opportunity to discuss thing that have been bothering you and to mutually sort them out.
5. Make Me Happy
Everyone wants their partner to care for them and cherish them deeply but expecting them to find ways to keep you happy every second of every day is not right. Don’t forget, love is a two-way street, not a one-man show; if you want your partner to make you happy, reciprocate!